Sunday, April 13, 2008

Time for some resouces (part1)


This blog contains explicit content with some occasional "triggers":

key words or phrases
music samples

Any or all of these can be potentially harmful to trauma survivors. So why put them here? Because sometimes these help to get important points across. If these bother you, stop reading now and try again alter. If not, keep going and thanks for the support.

Today, some vicious dissociating. But now things are feeling a little bit better. Which is a good time to start talking about support sites, groups and more. I'm not trying to dis anybody. Instead, for anyone who's trying to navigate their way thru starting to heal, hopefully these are helpful ideas.

First, keep in mind that support sites can be helpful. But all sites are a microcosm of the world. You have the whole range of people (from nice to nightmares). Sometimes there are clicks that you have to deal with. Somebody will always disagree with you and you'll probably get flamed too.

What do you do then? I've found that most after a while don't help. So I'm very reluctant to talk about this in a public way and out myself. The truth is, to many people having PTSD is being "mentally ill." And if you expose yourself to the wrong people, it can seriously hurt you in many ways.

Instead, don't think of PTSD as being a mental illness. Don't get hung up on techincal terms or various therapists who constantly debate studies. Realize it's a problem that you're working on to heal from.

Another point. Everyone is responsible for what they do and say. Especially destructive familes and others who caused your trauma. If necessary, you cut yourself off from them. Why? Because it's a matter of survival (literally). In my experience, nobody really cares and wants to deal with you and your PTSD from being raped. So where necessary, I cut myself off from them. Why be around people who are constant triggers? This can be tough when dealing with family or friends. But again, what do you do? Stay in a destructive situation? Or start to heal?

From time to time, I'll add links to various sites that can be helpful in healing. NOTE: I'm not responsible for the content/quality/results that come from using these sources. I'll do my best to try and find what seem to be quality sources. But beyond that, you're on your own.

If you come across helpful sites, please psost the URL in a comment. Then I'll add it to the links. Thanks!

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