First, thanks to all of our loyal global readers. We don't know who you are. We could get a Google satellite image of your house. But that wouldn't be cool.
Instead, how do you cope with symptoms, ESPECIALLY around Christmas? No approach works for everyone. But here are some ideas that might.
You're not responsible for what others say and do- This applies to other horrible people. Why do they say and these horrible things? I have no idea.
Having said that, you're not responsible for someone else's health (health is both physical and mental). If someone tells you that being raped by pedophiles is normal sexual experimentation, how do you respond to that?
Is this person mentally ill?
Are they a sociopath who has no comprehension of others?
Why would any sane person say something like that?
I don't know. But I do know that that is their problem, not mine. I try to keep my side of things clean so I don't have to apologize for anything later.
You have to set boundaries to protect your well being. At all costs- Nobody else will do it for you.
Right now, we're struggling with, among other symptoms, feeling left out. We're not responsible for being raped. Why then do many want nothing to do with us?
I don't know. However, everything that we're saying here is true. Being a trauma survivor isn't the ONLY thing about you. But it is there, and to be dealt with.
We still fight back in flashbacks when one of the psycho pedophiles is trying to cut our throat. You strike back first. It doesn't matter that nobody is physically there. You HAVE to fight back.
If your "immediate family" is abusive and makes your symptoms worse, don't go. There is no law that says you are required to be with them every time they say so.
Nobody else will protect your well being.
Do something else. The point is to feel safe.
Have a safe and fun break.