Here's a thought.
It's 9:57 p.m. where we are. 6:57 p.m. on the West. 10:57 on the East Coast.
From the U.K. eastward you're already dealing with Wednesday. How is it so far? is it safe to get out of bed? Or, should we call in sick and then go back to sleep?
We've heard it's common for trauma survivors to hear about and then take on others trauma. Maybe it's the we-can-save-the-world thing. We don't know.
But, if you find this happening to you, don't misjudge yourself. Caring and activism is fine. But it's not your responsibility that there's suffering in the world.
Our suggestion? First, deal with your own protection and healing. If necessary, turn this other stuff off. We haven't watched any regular news for about three days now.
We're still here. We'll take that as a good sign.
If you have to, screen everything. Yes, it can be a huge pain. But, what other choice do you have to keep your balance?
Just one opinion.
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Tools to Help Your Balance
It must be Tuesday. Welcome to our new readers in Romania. Daly City, Ca. And everywhere else. Please keep linking us everywhere you can without endangering your balance.
We all know that part of keeping your balance is creative use of your tools. These can be online, books or other sources.
But right now, if it's not triggering, stay away from "global news". Instead, expand your station list from the usual "corporate American radio sound" to a global sound.
In the spirit of better balance overall, here are some of the better stations we've found. Remember to screen everything, just to be sure. Stay away from news and commercials. Also, if you don't happen to speak the particular language, (a) don't worry about it. Or (b), start taking lessons. If you do, immersion is one of the best ways to study.
The List:
96.9 Voltage FM (Paris, France. Not the other one outside of Dallas).
Nile FM (Cairo)
Samurai Fm. com
2Day FM (Sydney)
95b FM (Auckland)
More coming soon.
We all know that part of keeping your balance is creative use of your tools. These can be online, books or other sources.
But right now, if it's not triggering, stay away from "global news". Instead, expand your station list from the usual "corporate American radio sound" to a global sound.
In the spirit of better balance overall, here are some of the better stations we've found. Remember to screen everything, just to be sure. Stay away from news and commercials. Also, if you don't happen to speak the particular language, (a) don't worry about it. Or (b), start taking lessons. If you do, immersion is one of the best ways to study.
The List:
96.9 Voltage FM (Paris, France. Not the other one outside of Dallas).
Nile FM (Cairo)
Samurai Fm. com
2Day FM (Sydney)
95b FM (Auckland)
More coming soon.
Monday, August 30, 2010
How's Your Balance?
Another quiet night at home. Still have to catch up on some job hunting stuff online. Then, it's meditation and tai-chi. Followed by a nice latenight snack.
Triggering stuff is still everywhere. Everything has to be screened. In crowded stores, don't read or look at anything you don't have to. Dangerous stimulus is everywhere. It's too much to handle.
There's no one specific reason for this. It just feels like everything is flooding out.
This means keep your balance at all costs. But also, it's kind of nice to have some peace and quiet.
Have a nice night. Or whatever it is now in your time zone.
Triggering stuff is still everywhere. Everything has to be screened. In crowded stores, don't read or look at anything you don't have to. Dangerous stimulus is everywhere. It's too much to handle.
There's no one specific reason for this. It just feels like everything is flooding out.
This means keep your balance at all costs. But also, it's kind of nice to have some peace and quiet.
Have a nice night. Or whatever it is now in your time zone.
Today is an Extremely Triggering Day (Contains Graphic Content)
Yes, it's Monday. But it's also an EXTREMELY triggering day.
Our suggestion. Stay the **** away from everything. Unless you HAVE to deal with it, don't. It's not worth having to then fight symptoms for hours and hours to try and regain your balance. In our case, it's hard enough as it is.
So why add more stress?
Our suggestion. Stay the **** away from everything. Unless you HAVE to deal with it, don't. It's not worth having to then fight symptoms for hours and hours to try and regain your balance. In our case, it's hard enough as it is.
So why add more stress?
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Focusing on Quiet
Taking lots of breaks right now as we try to keep our focus.
No noise. No global triggering stuff 24/7. Instead, focus on maintaining your balance. Look out the window. Stretch. Have a nice drink and snack. But stay away from it as much as possible.
Small segments.
No noise. No global triggering stuff 24/7. Instead, focus on maintaining your balance. Look out the window. Stretch. Have a nice drink and snack. But stay away from it as much as possible.
Small segments.
Pacing and Focus
Welcome to our new readers in Germany. Also, please keep linking us everywhere you can (when it's not a threat to your protection).
We still say keep away from everything you don't have to look at/see/read. We spend more time on other stuff that's far more condusive to your peace of mind. We could do another variation of the really old "it's a slow news cycle" joke. But what's the point.
How do you cope with despair? When it feels like all of the trauma is caving in on you, what helps you to not just snap? Unfortnately there's still too much one-sided attention paid to trauma survivors. Much of the time the MSM says vets=PTSD. But nobody ever says, hang on a minute. Battered moms and their kids have PTSD as well. Drive by shooting survivors have PTSD.
Nobody can be bothered to mess up their nice and neat soundbites?
In our opinion, Obama should declare this to be a threat to our "national security". Next question. How do you pay for this?
The first step is to get out of Iraq and Afghanistan. Because what's more important? Maintaining your global conquest and power? Or, the welfare of your citizens who pay for this stuff thru taxes?
Roughly 60% of the population say they're against these wars. That's 180 million people. What would happen if all of these people refused to pay their taxes? Where would the govt. find the jail space to house all of these people? What would the world reaction be to this?
Whether it's people or money, numbers can be manipulated only to a certain point. In this mid-term election year, the people in power will do anything they can to not deal with anything else that really matters.
This means that odds are nothing is really going to change. All the more reason to protect yourself at all costs.
Why? Because nobody else will do it for you.
We still say keep away from everything you don't have to look at/see/read. We spend more time on other stuff that's far more condusive to your peace of mind. We could do another variation of the really old "it's a slow news cycle" joke. But what's the point.
How do you cope with despair? When it feels like all of the trauma is caving in on you, what helps you to not just snap? Unfortnately there's still too much one-sided attention paid to trauma survivors. Much of the time the MSM says vets=PTSD. But nobody ever says, hang on a minute. Battered moms and their kids have PTSD as well. Drive by shooting survivors have PTSD.
Nobody can be bothered to mess up their nice and neat soundbites?
In our opinion, Obama should declare this to be a threat to our "national security". Next question. How do you pay for this?
The first step is to get out of Iraq and Afghanistan. Because what's more important? Maintaining your global conquest and power? Or, the welfare of your citizens who pay for this stuff thru taxes?
Roughly 60% of the population say they're against these wars. That's 180 million people. What would happen if all of these people refused to pay their taxes? Where would the govt. find the jail space to house all of these people? What would the world reaction be to this?
Whether it's people or money, numbers can be manipulated only to a certain point. In this mid-term election year, the people in power will do anything they can to not deal with anything else that really matters.
This means that odds are nothing is really going to change. All the more reason to protect yourself at all costs.
Why? Because nobody else will do it for you.
Saturday, August 28, 2010
What Helps You to Stay Balanced?
Into the weekend, but it's not a holiday weekend. Next weekend is a holiday weekend here and in many other countries. If it's not in yours, complain to the management.
We're trying to do tai chi and meditation twice a day. At times it feels like there's a little more focus. But then at other we have to fight to not black out. Part of the solution seems to be to keep your blood sugar balanced. It's the old thing of eat every few hours. As for your favorite sugary drinks, pace yourself. Then see what happens.
Went to the potential new therapist yeaterday. She seems nice and says she can help us. She doesn't use EMDR in her therapy. But her method seems to be a little more holistic overall. We'll talk to someone else there for a second opinion. But the point is we need to go somewhere. That's the important thing.
Do you have other things that help you to maintain your balance? If you use meditation, try to make your setting as comforting as possible. The better it is, the more benefits you can get out of it.
As for setting boundaries with e and voice mail, we say outsource it. If you can afford $5 per hour, why not do that? This allows you more time to protect yourself and get other things done. If it's good enough for a Fortune 500 CEO, why can't the rest of us use it and have more time too?
Just an idea.
We're trying to do tai chi and meditation twice a day. At times it feels like there's a little more focus. But then at other we have to fight to not black out. Part of the solution seems to be to keep your blood sugar balanced. It's the old thing of eat every few hours. As for your favorite sugary drinks, pace yourself. Then see what happens.
Went to the potential new therapist yeaterday. She seems nice and says she can help us. She doesn't use EMDR in her therapy. But her method seems to be a little more holistic overall. We'll talk to someone else there for a second opinion. But the point is we need to go somewhere. That's the important thing.
Do you have other things that help you to maintain your balance? If you use meditation, try to make your setting as comforting as possible. The better it is, the more benefits you can get out of it.
As for setting boundaries with e and voice mail, we say outsource it. If you can afford $5 per hour, why not do that? This allows you more time to protect yourself and get other things done. If it's good enough for a Fortune 500 CEO, why can't the rest of us use it and have more time too?
Just an idea.
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